Donald Miller tells the story of a group of his friends deciding to give themselves a standing ovation. Reluctant at first, Miller stood up and began to clap. What happened next was transforming. As he began to clap and look at his close friends around the room, his mind began to find reasons for admiring them. He was moved as he realized how some had overcame incredibly challenging things in their lives.
He began, then, to feel such admiration for them.
Miller describes it as an amazing experience that taught him that sometimes “just deciding to admire someone, causes you to find a reason to admire them.” Every human being has some thing that causes them to be admirable. There is some thing that they have gone through that makes them completely admirable. The fact that they continue to do what they do every day, considering what they have come through, is very admirable.
Sometimes, “just deciding to admire someone, causes you to find a reason to admire them.”
His advice? Just look for something to admire in people and they will sense your admiration. Reject starting with the mindset that they need to earn your admiration. Start with the mindset, “I already admire you.”
Reject starting with the mindset that they need to earn your admiration.
Miller says, "People admire you when you admire them."
Maybe it’s true what the Karate Kid said years ago, “What goes around, comes around.”
Selah, pause and think about that…